I just know tht my day will be just awesome whn i start it like this....
I was thinking about writing a bit about this thing i always repeat when talking with friends or even with stranger sometimes....
It's about my point of view on human contact....cuz i literaly belive it's a cure for our body and soul....
I was watching this video where some psychologists explain the importance of it...
Like..an tragedy occured..war or wht ever....and there was a some number of babies left without parents..
So they put thm in this hospital,where people will take care of thm...and they did...those nurses gave thm food,keeping thm clean and stuff but eventhough..almost one third of babies died..one by one...no explaination..no sickness no sympthoms..just a sudden baby death:(
They also realized afterwards tht the babies who were closer to hje doors were always good and those all tha way back were those dying cases...
So they had a theory...those closer to the doors and a hallway were safe cuzz there was always someone approaching thm,picking thm up and cuddle thm..which was not the case with those less fortunate all the way back:(((
Also logicaly thinking...a baby needs the morher's heartbit to hear and feel quite often cuzz for nine months tht was the rhythm of life for the baby...who's own little heart was synchronized with the mom's rhythm....
Now we are not babies anymore but we do need that human contact too...we are just too buisy with everyday life and never even think of making time for tht stuff..
It's so sad when you look at it...cuzz i don't care how old or serious you are...a normal person needs to feel love and to give love too...one of the basic things in our nature...that we skip with no problem..thinking of it as of some ridiculous childish thing...but it's so not..
Now...i'm a person that always liked to cuddle...i just love tht shit...cuzz my mom always did tht with us and i'm so greatful for tht but my dad was totaly not like tht...
Maybe...sometimes but i don' even know if that came naturaly to him cuzz there's this fuckin' thinking anywhere but specialy in countries such a serbia that man needs to be cold and emotionaless otherwise you're a cunt..,
Well now i realized tht you r a cunt everytime you don't actualy have the balls to show your soft side,and your emotions...
Luckily for me my wife is very cuddly women and we do tht constantly...we are all kissy,kissy and lovey dovey and tht's maybe cuzz we work different hours so we never have tht afterwork us-time like most couples do during the week but anyway we got that covered!
Actualy recently we both realized that when we wake up in the middle of the night we're like holding eachother or hugging...it's so cool,you just wanna stay in bed like tht a whole day long:)))
But again...my problem with single people...i belive tht most of them have a huge lack of this very important matter...and i don't care how happy you r alone or how much you need a period when you don' want new people in your life...you need tht contact...
now i'm not saying you should ask random people on a street to hold your hand for five minutes...but even if you're single you still have friends,parents,relatives and gender is not an isshue you just need tht human closeness every once in a while for your soul for fuck sake!!!
So what i want you to do is i want you ask your friends next time you see thm...to hold your hand for a while..just tht...while you're taking coffee or just talk...
A hugging would even be better but take your time cuz i promise you...you'll feel uncomfortable...you and your friend...
But that feeling right there is the exact thing you need to kill with that contact...that feeling is your insecurity,vulnerability about things no one should be voulnerable with..it's your weakness...
Cure it,make it go away,make yourself more comfortable about everything you are and make more space for having someone you love in your life❤️
You be good now and have an awesome day ya all...love you😘😘😘
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